I found great article several years ago about Muslim women's right.

Source : http://www.themuslimwoman.com/herrights/womensrights.htm

Muslim Women Have the Right to Go Outside of Her Home

Muslim women are not forbidden from going out in the community, working, or visiting relatives and female friends, if there is no objection from their guardian/husband and they are covered and behave and speak according to Islamic guidelines and, if necessary, escorted by their Mahram (a close male relative). However, a woman’s home should be the main base that she works from. Allah (SWT) instructed the wife’s of the Prophet (SAW):

"O wives of the Prophet! You are not like any other women. If you keep your duty (to Allah), then be not soft in speech, lest he is whose heart is a disease (of hypocrisy or evil desire for adultery, etc.) should be moved with desire, but speak in an honorable manner. And stay in your houses, and do not display yourselves like that of the times of ignorance, and offer prayers perfectly (Iqamat-as-Salat), and give Zakat and obey Allah and His Messenger. Allah wishes only to remove Ar-Rijs (evil deeds and sins, etc.) from you, O members of the family [of the Prophet (SAW)], and to purify you with a thorough purification." (Al-Ahzab 33:32-33)

A Woman in Islam Has the Right to Get an Education

 In the words of the Prophet Muhammad (SAW):

"To seek knowledge is obligatory on every Muslim."
(Declared Authentic By Shaikh Muhammad Naasir-ud-Deen Al-Albaani)

Muslim here meaning male and female Muslims, as women are the twin halves of men. The Prophet (SAW) also said:

"Whoever follows a way to seek knowledge, Allah will make easy for him a way to paradise." (Declared Authentic By Shaikh Muhammad Naasir-ud-Deen Al-Albaani)

A woman in Islam has the right to knowledge and education. Allah (SWT) encourages women to read and keep up the learning process. He also bestows His mercy upon all who seek knowledge, and gives them high status:

"Is one who is obedient to Allah, prostrating himself or standing (in prayer) during the hours of the night, fearing the Hereafter and hoping for the Mercy of his Lord (like one who disbelieves)? Say: "Are those who know equal to those who know not?" It is only men of understanding who will remember (i.e. get a lesson from Allah’s Signs and Verses). (Az-Zumar 39:9)

"O you who believe! When you are told to make room in the assemblies, (spread out and) make room. Allah will give you (ample) room (from His Mercy). And when you are told to rise up (for prayers, Jihad, or for any other good deed), rise up. Allah will exalt in degree those of you who believe, and those who have been granted knowledge. And Allah is Well-Acquainted with what you do. (Al-Mujadilah 58:11)

This is referring to religious knowledge, in the first place, and to any other kind of knowledge, in the second place, where one has the intention of benefiting herself, her family and the Islamic society. Additionally, a husband should not forbid his wife from going out of the house to seek basic religious knowledge, unless he is teaching her at home. The Quran advises mankind to pray:

"Then High above all be Allah, the True King. And be not in haste [O Muhammad (SAW)] with the Quran before its revelation is completed to you, and say: My Lord! Increase me in knowledge." (Ta-Ha 20:114)

The Right to Go to the Mosque

The Messenger of Allah (SAW) said:

"If someone’s wife asks his permission to go to the mosque, he should not deny it to her."

Women should be covered Islamically, according to the Muslim woman's dress requirements.

At the same time, a woman’s prayer in her home is better, from the standpoint of her household duties and duties as a mother. Also it is better in the sense that it prevents unnecessary mixing with men. The Prophet (SAW) also stated on another occasion:

"But their homes are better for them." (Reported by Abu Dawud and Ahmed)
The Right to Seek Employment If you take a look at many societies today, a woman is only valued and considered important if she performs the functions of a man, (while at the same time displaying her feminine attractions to the public). While these women may carry the immense responsibility of bearing and rearing children, you have to admit that they may still be at par with men in nearly every area of life. The result is the present-day confusion concerning sex role differentiation, resulting in very large numbers of divorces and emotionally distraught children.

In Islam, however, the value and importance of women in society and the true measure of their success as human beings, is measured with completely different criteria: their fear of Allah (SWT) and obedience to Him, and fulfillment of the duties He has entrusted them with, particularly that of bearing, rearing and teaching children.

Nevertheless, Islam is a practical religion, and responds to human needs and life situations. Many women need, or wish, to work for various reasons. For example, they may possess a needed skill, such as a teacher or a doctor.

While Islam does not prohibit women working outside the home, it does stipulate that the following restrictions be followed to safeguard the dignity and honor of women and the purity and stability of the Islamic society, (the conduct of women, after all, is the "backbone" of any society):

1. Outside employment should not come before, or seriously interfere with her responsibilities as wife and mother.

2. Her work should not be a source of friction within the family, and the husband’s consent is required in order to eliminate later disagreements. If she is not married, she must have her guardian’s consent.

3. Her appearance, manner and tone of speech and overall behavior should follow Islamic guidelines. These include: restraining her glances in relation to any men near the work place, wearing correct Islamic dress, avoiding men, not walking in a provocative manner, and not using make-up or perfume in public.

4. Her job should not be one which causes moral corruption in society, or involve any prohibited trade or activity, affect her own religion, morals, dignity and good behavior, or subject her to temptations.

5. Her job should not be one which is mixing and associating with men.

6. A woman should try to seek employment in positions which require a woman’s special skills, or which relate to the needs of women and children, such as teaching, nursing other women, midwifery, medicine with specialization’s like pediatric or obstetrics-gynecology.
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One day my husband come home with one article about facebook. I just simply said do you think i'm facebooking every day????? so i stop facebook, continue web sitting again....hahaha. Anyway i love my website, except the mr husband never respond to editorial invitation. Please buy me domain hun......this statement just pass frm left ear to his right ear......
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Sengaja bikin judul aneh, walaupun gak nyambung tapi judulnya mirip judul lagu oasis. I'm really happy with my life, so i dont care what ppl said abt me. They said jadi ibu rumah tangga stress banget, di rumah ngurus rumah, anak, bla.....bla....bla......ujungnya "LO ga ngerasain sih ndri!!!"....hehehehe.....dalem banget. Coba ngomong sekali lagi, pasti jawabannya "Ah enak kok, cuma nyantai2 di rumah, mberesin rumah, masak buat suami&anak, bisa window shopping bareng Safiyyah". Setelah nulis statement ini langsung inget, ANN said "indi, do your PhD just for yourself". Begitulah ANN, the best Malay in my life. Tapi bener loh, malessssss bgt mikir2 belajar. Bayangin gimana bisa konsen baca 1 artikel saja kalau layar laptop yg cuma 12' harus separo2 sama Safiyyah yang lagi nonton Pororo. Yah kesimpulannya, "Alhamdulillah, gila seneng banget bisa jadi ibu rumah tangga plus punya bayi imut". Gak rugi kan berenti PhD. Ada sih yg bilang: "iya ndri dia emang gitu kyk lo lah mentingin karir", ndalem nyamain org ama gw. So menurut kalian gw gimana? Sumpah tidak pernah merasa lebih baik atau harus lebih baik dari teman-teman yang lain. Aku adalah aku........
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I was so surprise with Weebly new look. Many new features, including facebook, twitter, etc. The best way to share you life experiment by drag and drop features.
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After more than a year without any news, now I'm back with baby Safiyyah. She was born last year but i'm so lazy to update my website. Someone said i'm not good writer, but who care coz I'm still here. I'll post more story about Safiyyah and my motherly life. And Yes, I stop my study.....well it wasn't  my dream at all to study there with things that i dont like. Like how you know me....I only do stuff that I love. So I'm so sorry if i dont love you.....hehehe. Still hope will continue my study again soon. I really miss Lab and Chemistry but Safiyyah keeping me busy everyday.
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Setelah 6 bulan bekerja sebagai research officer dan 3 semester researh grant student (RSG), akhirnya daku memutuskan untuk stop. Sebetulnya sudah lama berkeinginan untuk berhenti tapi klo dipikir-pikir sayang juga PhDnya. Semester ini memang masih ditawari rsg tapi saya tolak mentah-mentah dengan alasan kesehatan saya yang semakin memburuk. kondisi saluran nafas saya yang alergi terhadap bau bahan kimia sangat mempersulit study saya. Ditambah lagi pekerjaan yg tidak dapat dimanage dengan baik dan atasan saya yang selalu membuat keadaan menjadi semakin tegang. Saya alergi dengan hampir semua bau2an, contohnya saya sangat alergi dengan spidol wite board atau biasa disebut-sebut marker. Teman satu lab kerap menyebutnya Marker-phobia, karna saya selalu lari jauh dari orang yang sedang menggunakan marker. Belum lagi ditambah bahan kimia lain di lab terutama monomer yg baunya sangat kuat.

Sebenernya agak sedikit pengen curhat juga. Sebetulnya saya cukup letih menghadapi orang yang banyak bicara, terutama tentang hal-hal yg tidak penting. Apalagi yang suka mengadu domba orang lain dan menjelek-jelekan di depan orang lain. Mungkin ini juga yang membuat asma saya sering kambuh. Saya ingin membuat hidup saya lebih berarti dari sekedar mendengar omongan orang yang sangat tidak jelas. Duh betul-betul sangat membuang waktu, membuat saya lebih ingin tinggal di rumah. Less sin (gak ngomongin orang), banyak waktu untuk ngurus rumah. Well, saya tetap harus melanjutkan PhD yg terlihat sebagai jalan yg tak berujung. Sebetulnya bisa cepat kalau saya berkonsentrasi dan lebih serius. Inshallah saya bisa seperti dulu saat master, 10 bulan masa terburuk dalam hidup yang Alhamdulillah membuahkan hasil.

Tapi semester ini daftar juga 2 subjek; Penelitian dan Bahasa Malaysia Penulisan Ilmiah. BISMILLAH........semoga bisa submit semester ini (berhubung keadaan keuangan yg sedang sekarat).
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Heran kenapa ada orang yg hidupnya sangat terobsesi sama orang lain. Like she doesnt have her own life. Sebetulnya gw sungguh mengasihani orang-orang seperti ini. Yang sebetulnya sangat kecewa dengan hidupnya yang tidak seperti harapannya. Well, Man accept faith, kecuali orang-orang yang takut menghadapi hidupnya sendiri. Malah ada juga orang2 yg rela menduakan ALLAH karna keinginannya. Rela menjadi pengikut setan demi keinginannya yg jelas-jelas hanya sementara.

However,what I feel.....ALLAH always love me. And You'll go with ur belove evil. I've been struggling alot to face to face this evil. But again I realize that I'll never give up Inshallah.

Maybe its time to open your eyes and see the real me. Ah, again I dont want to give up. So mohon maaf anda tidak berhasil membuat saya gila, hahaha saya hepi kok walaupun piaraan lo suka bikin ulah............

Hahay kaget kan melihat daku belajar lagi. Anyway I pray everynight for my PhD before........then Alhamdulillah ALLAH give me a chance (PhD gratis lagi malah di gaji). Dengan serangan2 menjelang fajar lo gw masih bertahan dengan hidup gw, seandainya menyakiti gw pun itu karna kehendak ALLAH. Mungkin cobaan supaya gw berubah dan lebih banyak berdoa. Klo cuma compete ama orang yg minta2 ama setan untuk dapet kerja di petronas sih ga level bow.  

Oye Masjid jameek TOP ada wirelessnya, pake Air cond lagi plus ceramah.......hehehe iklan. Tapi pas berdoa ada bayangan2 tinggi item jalan2 trs Subhanallah yg berdoa bergema-gema kyk mesjid ini penuh bgt orang. Mungkin mesjid ini dilengkapi fasilitas2 lain juga untuk non human...hehehe  

Ditulis sambil nunggu adzan sholat isya sembari dengerin ceramah......^_^
Kata Pa Uztad, ALLAH x i kan bagi bila memang Dia x nak bagi. Just accept ur faith, ALLAH knoes wht the best for you.

And I forgive you for wht you did to me, May ALLAH guide you......
Klo ALLAh x bagi jangan stress gitu donk......ALLAH bagi gw soalnya kan gw mintanya serius dan keinginan gw untuk berubah memang dari hati yg paling dalem. Klo lo kan mintanya untuk nyembunyiin kejelekan lo......tuh jelas kan ALLAH MAHA TAU......

Bingung, masih ada yg ngaji bergema-gema nih....klo orang ga mungkin secara pada merhatiin Pa Uztad semua........



 

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I dunno whts wrong with me. Seems like something wrong. Everytime i feel weak, angry and sick ........the strange lights always twinkle around me for a short duration. Wondering whts that..........so weird, mostly happen after i cry alot becoz of sickness or anger.
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My Sis Wed 04/20/2010
 
10/04/2010 Ande's wedding party. Semoga menjadi keluarga yang sakinah, plus tambah dewasa yah....
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Ande's wed party
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Ma Oni, tante2 dan sepupu
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Bersama para sepupu (Adis, Thifal dan Gema)
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My husband on sundanesse traditional dress
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Teteh Vie and fam
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Sebenernya suami  saya selalu konsisten dengan studinya tapi sayangnya selalu ada hambatan dari luar. Misalnya dari semester 1 sampai semester 3 dia sibuk mengajar privat. Sebetulnya mengajar privat seharusnya tidak menyita waktu, tapi sayangnya mahasiswa yang dia ajar selalu saja menyerahkan tugasnya untuk diselesaikan. Dilema jadi guru privat, bukannya mengajar malah disuruh ngerjain tugas. Selain itu sikap si student juga kadang terlalu memaksakan, pernah suami saya mengerjakan tugas mereka sampai jam 3 pagi padahal pagi harinya dia harus mengajar di sekolah. Selama 3 semester bagaikan suami saya yang kuliah lagi, sebab hampir semua tugas-tugas mereka diselesaikan oleh suami saya. Kadang saya berpikir, sungguh enak menjadi anak orang kaya apapun bisa dilakukan dengan uang.

Menginjak semester ke-4 barulah saya melihat ada perubahan. Hampir setiap hari dia selalu menulis (karena terlalu sering saya tanya, "hun, how's your proposal?"). Kadang juga dia jadi sensitive apalagi setelah saya melewati presentasi proposal saya. Pernah sekali dia bilang "why you insulting me??" padahal saya cuma berniat bertanya tentang progressnya. Semester ini memang dia terlihat konsentrasi ke proposalnya, sampai-sampai dia tidak mengajar part-time di kampusnya.  Rencana poposal diselesaikan semester ini supaya awal semester depan bisa dipresentasikan. Setelah proposal selesai dia akan segera mengambil data ke negaranya selama sebulan. Susahnya menyelesaikan S3, harus banyak belajar sabar dan berkorban.
 
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